Whether you're at the very beginning of a relationship, have already invested a great many years or haven't even committed to the idea that you are, in fact in one yet, it's important to pay attention to your partner.

Understanding that during the physical interactions that two people share the mind does not simply shut off is important and even more so might be having some idea of what's going through your partner's mind when this is happening.

Why should you want to know the thoughts going through your sweetheart's head when you're getting frisky with one another? Because these thoughts, ideas and fantasies may be the very key to keeping your physical relationship healthy, strong and perhaps even spicing it up.

Some of the most common thoughts and fantasies to enter into people's minds during physical interactions are often broken into two categories: ideas that are strongly related to what's happening and those that aren't. Having some idea of the first set could prove extremely useful to your bedroom life, while gaining knowledge about the latter half of ideas may help you to fix problems that are intruding upon your relationship during the most undesirable moments.

Common Positive Thoughts during Physical Encounters:

* Taking notice of the way things feel, smell and appear in a close proximity

* Appreciating being touched in a certain way

* Noticing a particular movement or adjustment that doesn't feel quite right and feeling the desire to correct it

* Fantasizing about being in a situation, or place that is particularly sensual

* Picturing images of other individuals who a person may find attractive

* Appreciating the way one's partner looks or feels during the encounter

* Noticing a building feeling a pleasure a relaxation and the positive mindset that often accompanies these actions

Common Negative Thoughts during Physical Encounters:

* A desire to hurry up the physical encounter

* Reluctance to allow for a relaxing mindset

* Considering chores, work related issues or other responsibilities that need attending to.

* Repulsion or disgust upon sight of partner

* Irritation for feeling obligated to participate in physical encounter

After reviewing some of the most common positive and negative thoughts that people have during their physical interactions you may have a better understanding of why they can be so important. If, for example, a person persistently wishes to hurry up any physical interaction with their partner, this is often a sign that something is very wrong in the relationship.

Taking the time to pay attention the body language that your partner is giving you during your physical times together is an excellent way to pick out signs of positive or negative thoughts. Though this way of navigating your sweetheart's thought process may not be exact it can often help you to decide upon a next step.

Based upon the reactions you witness, a list of physical movements, positions, perhaps even spoken words can be committed to your memory, if you believe that they had a profoundly positive effect on your partner's physical experience. If, on the other hand, you partner displayed any negative signs you may be inclined to try out some different moves during your next physical encounter.

When a wide variety of physical activities doesn't seem to have an impact on your partner's seemingly negative reaction to the experience you may want to try sitting down and discussing the problem with your partner. Many possibilities that would be difficult for you to conclude on your own exist and may require an explanation from your sweetheart. The problem may be as simple as your partner disliking something that you love to do, or perhaps as complex as completely questioning the stability of the entire relationship; left unchecked this problem has the potential to be devastating to your future together.

Many people have difficult opening a conversation up to such a delicate topic and may find that because of this they are unable to broach the subject. Discussing a sensitive subject like sex, even with someone who you feel relatively comfortable with can be stressful and embarrassing. Remember that in order to create a more positive and pleasurable environment for you and your partner this challenge must be faced.

Helpful Phrases for Discussing Sexual Problems with Your Partner:

* It seems as though you are not enjoying yourself when we are intimate

* I worry that our time together is distressing you in some way, rather than being a pleasurable experience for you

* Your feelings mean a great deal to me and I worry that something is bothering you about our relationship that you feel you can't discuss openly with me

* I have noticed that when we are physically intimate it appears as though you are not enjoying our time together and I would like you to share your feelings with me

* What you're experiencing during our time together means a lot to me and I worry that it has not been very good recently

Notice how none of these phrases are accusatory, this may be important during the conversation as you do not want to add guilt into already negative feelings. Allowing your partner to understand that you are not trying to tell them how they feel, but simply explaining what you have perceived and that you would like them to help you understand what they have been experiencing.

Displaying confidence with such a delicate situation can also help your partner to understand how seriously you take both this problem and the entirety of your relationship. Maintaining a balance between consideration and a firm desire to resolve the situation will help to steer the conversation in a positive direction.

If you and your sweetheart are able to get to the root of the problem and solve it you have an excellent hope of changing your intimate dynamic forever. By simply taking the time to ensure that you and your partner are both getting the most out of your physical experiences you may create a lifetime of pleasure and happiness as well as building strong ties and trust in your relationship.