If you had a breakup in your relationship, then you are probably wondering what to do next. It is even worse if he broke up with you. You probably do not feel like doing anything except spending your time thinking about the breakup. Your life feels like it is at a standstill, but what do you do? Do you want to get your guy back and get your life back on track? If so, then read on.

When he broke up, you probably thought was it your fault. Was it him or what was the real reason he wanted to break up? You might wonder why he did not try to work things out. He wanted out for some reason and he ended it. Are you really ready to give him up? Even though it is usually easier to work on a relationship when you are still in it, you can work out the differences after a breakup.

If you really want your guy back, you can get him back even if he broke up with you. First, you must decide if you really want him back or is it just that you were in a rut and you miss the rut? Missing someone because of "love" is different from missing someone because of convenience or stability. Make sure your intentions are for the right reasons.

You must realize if you try to get your guy back, it may or may not work. Make sure you are psychologically prepared if your plan fails, and do not allow yourself to fall into a deep depression. At least if you try, you will know you gave it your best and what the ultimate outcome is.

Start by making sure you have control over your emotions. No more drama queen emotions! If you have been guilty of this in the past, it is time to stop. It will be hard, but do not allow yourself to fall into depression or hysteria.

If he does decide to call or contact you, make sure you do not get too emotional. Keep your cool and do not bring up memories of why he broke up with you.

Live life again. Stop the pity party and start to live again. Do not mope around and look gloomy all the time. Carry on with your daily life and show that your emotions have grown up.

Fix yourself up including your hair, makeup, clothing and physical appearance. Go out with your friends and have a social life. Be fun to be around and your ex guy WILL notice the "new you."

If he sees you are living your life without him, he may start to think that he made a mistake especially with someone so fun to be around like you. If you do not contact him, he may start to miss you and call, email or text you. Remember to let him contact you if at all possible. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

When he does contact you, be brief and unemotional. Let him know how busy you have been and that you are doing great. This will build a sense of mystery, which men love. This will entice him to want to know more or to see you again.

If you meet in person, there should be no kissing or getting mushy. A nice goodbye or maybe a hug, but that is it. This will make him crazy. Men want what they feel they cannot have.

Take it slow and easy and you will start to attract him back to you. He will start chasing you instead of you chasing him. Let the factors of attraction, intrigue and mystery work in your favor. Be illusive and have a magnetic personality that he will not be able to resist.

Be cool, a little teasing and consistent to get your guy back. Make a well thought out plan and stick with it. There are more steps to take to make a plan that cannot fail.