Too shy to flirt?

 

Read on for helpful tips on how to express feelings of attraction

 

Ever wonder how some people just get so lucky when it comes to getting the woman or man that they want. It is actually not as hard as you may think. To play the love game with finesse, all you need to do is make the right moves and learn how to flirt your way into another person’s heart.

For those of you who seem to have a problem with flirting, here are a few tips that are bound to get you the person you desire:


Art of love
One way of getting someone’s attention is speaking to them like they were a piece of art. You don’t have to be an expert on renaissance or modern art to be able to do this. Just make sure if you are talking about his or her hair or figure or smile, use adjectives like you would to describe a beautiful painting. Although, if you are not good with words don’t try this as you might come off as being cheesy. So, If you do try this trick, do it with subtlety.


Visual seduction
A provocative glance is another way to start flirting. If you are a little shy and can’t really walk up to someone and start up a conversation, the next best option would be if you gave them ‘the look’. Just let your eyes do the talking, but try not to stare blatantly. Just glance occasionally at your potential interest and who knows, maybe they will come up to you and start a conversation. Remember, a mysterious glance is very hard to resist.


Originality
If you want to give someone a compliment, don’t croon about the usual “you have a nice smile” or “I like what you are wearing.” Instead, make an original compliment. Talk about his or her personality or what you like about what they have to say. And be genuine; one can tell when you’re faking a compliment. So get original.


Attention to detail
Make a note of everything he or she is wearing, from the head  to their shoes and everything in between. This will prove to be especially rewarding in the future. They’ll be so touched that you actually remembered every little detail; he or she is bound to feel exceptional and you will reap the rewards.


Allow space
If someone seems reluctant to give you too many personal details like numbers etc, don’t push. By doing this you might come off as being desperate or worse, a shady thug. Maybe the person you want likes to take things slow, so respect their space always. Nothing turns anyone off more than desperate behaviour.


Use your vocabulary
Once again this applies to those who are good with words. As clich? as it may sound, if you can speak to a man or woman and charm them with your words it makes life very easy. So if you are the literary variety throw in some quotes in the middle of your conversation, there is no harm in trying to impress someone you just met. However, don’t only speak in metaphors or you’ll end up boring him or her instead of sparking their interest.


Laughter
If you are not of the literary variety or can’t give seductive glances, your next best option would be to use humour. Hopefully you have a sense of humour, and nothing turns people on more than laughter. You can simply play off your surroundings in order to establish a casual, friendly atmosphere between the two of you. Getting a few chuckles out of him or her will make them feel comfortable and chances are you’ll be able to develop a relationship faster.


The sex factor
Even if sex might be on your mind, try not to make blatant remarks about the fact. You don’t want someone to get the impression that you only want one thing from them. So its all good that you feel sexually charged, just don’t overplay the sexuality, not initially at least.


Unique and beautiful
Give him or her the impression that they are one of a kind and truly remarkable. Making one feel special involves ignoring everyone else in the room. So try to work the situation to your advantage by paying him or her a lot of attention, so you can create space only for the two of you, even though you may be at a public place or party.

We all have to play the love game at some point in our life. Flirting can be healthy, just make sure you express yourself with grace and who knows a little harmless flirting could lead to many more intense but great emotions.