Secrets of Love



The First Secret - The Power Of Thought

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Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving

thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations

can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want

to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about

your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.



The Second Secret - The Power Of Respect

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You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first

person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect asks

yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even

those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"



The Third Secret - The Power Of Giving

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If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love

you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself freely

and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to

a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you,

but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a

happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give

instead of what you can take.



The Fourth Secret - The Power Of Friendship

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To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not

consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward

together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love

them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil

through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a

relationship, you must first bring friendship.



The Fifth Secret - The Power Of Touch

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Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down

barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional

states and makes us more receptive to love.



The Sixth Secret - The Power Of Letting Go

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If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if

it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their

own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and

let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears,

prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past

has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."



The Seventh Secret - The Power Of Communication

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When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love

someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you

love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic

words: "I Love you." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always

leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you

see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the

people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and. why are you

waiting?



The Eighth Secret - The Power Of Commitment

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If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that

commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the

true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be

committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or

something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile

relationship from a strong one.





The Ninth Secret - The Power Of Passion

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Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come

through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment,

enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating

past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce

passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do

is to live each day with passion.



The Tenth Secret - The Power Of Trust

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Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person

becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels wrapped

and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you

trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love

will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for

you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If

the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.