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[Vatsal]

aside from having a solid foundation
of confidence and charm, one has to make very sure to make an
outstanding first impression. The first impression you make on
a girl can have a major impact on the way she sees you from that
point forward.

It seems that the first impression is like a "sample" of who you
are. If your first impression (approach) is dull, predictable and
boring. She will view you as such. If your approach is common,
she will see you as just another guy wanting to get laid. If your
approach is light-hearted, confident and funny, she will see you
that way as well.
I know friends of mine who are very good-looking guys and are
actually quite confident and fun to be around over all. But when
they approach girls and establish that first impression, they often
come across as being nervous and predictable. Something like:

"Oh, hi. Umm. I couldn't help but notice you from across the room. Do
you think that I could have you number?"

They seem to think that once the girl gets to know them, and once
they can get the girl on a date, that they can show these girls
how confident and fun-loving they are. The sad part is, they never
make it to the first date. Since the girls' initial impression of
them was "dull, nervous, boring, predictable."

Obviously, we all know that first impressions are lasting ones,
and are very, VERY important in the dating game. So it would make
sense to actually rehearse and practice, and fabricate a great,
no make that an iron-clad approach.

It's said that in business, making a killing doesn't have anything
to do with the product you are selling, but how well you present
(advertise) the product. You can have a great product (personality,
body, etc), but if you can't advertise it properly, you're dead
wherever you go.

After a first impression has been made, the imagination immediately
begins to fabricate and build upon this initial impression. If
it's a good first impression, a good image of you will be created
in her mind.

continued........

[Vatsal]

Now, to continue from part 1, anyone can employ these tactics on any girl and can succeed. SOme might say that this is cheating. I dont agree. Common, how can it be cheating, it is nothing but a way of presenting yourself and getting the person you like to like you. It is like planning for what you want to achieve. You will need practice to master this technique.

Now, to the most important part. What constitutes the ideal approach?

Well, first off, we want a clear vision of what kind of man we want
our Mrs. Perfect to see us as. Ideally, we would want her to know
we were confident, smart, funny, and ambitious.
Right?

And we can't rely on the first date to show her how confident and
fun we are if we don't get that first date. Therefore, we have to
take all these great qualities and package them into a neat "sample
package," called the first impression. Which will start a chain
reaction of great thoughts and feelings of attraction towards us.

Let's say I'm at the gym for example. When I see a girl I am
interested in I will do the following:

Step One

I will ensure that my posture is intact. Head high, shoulders
slightly back and in proper alignment. I will walk with grace
and confidence.

It's a fact that there are over 750,000 non-verbal signs we give
off, which tell other people about who we are! Therefore, it becomes
very, very important that she sees this. Don't overdo it and walk
around like a machoman or anything, but make sure your movements
and gestures are very calm, coordinated and sound.

Step
Two

Mild eye contact. I will make some eye contact with "relaxed"
eyes, not nervous, but calm, casual, brief eye contact (as I walk
in her direction).

Step Three

In a calm and light-hearted voice, I will say the following: "Hi,
I'm rahul. I haven't seen you around here before. You must be new
to this gym (school, store, whatever)." When done in a calm and
casual manner, this shows confidence.

Let her answer.

"I guess this means I'm going to have to invite you out for
coffee. And if you don't drink coffee, too bad. You can watch me
drink coffee, while I get to know you better. Deal?" Smile. This
would show even more confidence and a sense of humor.

Her: "Sure, why not."

You: "Cool, what's your number. I've gotta run, but I'll drop you
a line when I get some free time. K?"


So what's the sum total of this brief dialog. In a nutshell, it
has portrayed you as being:

* Mysterious
* Fun and exitin
* Unpredictable
* In control
* Confident
* Charming
* Easy-going
* Calm and collected
* Assertive, initiative, and in demand