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The first mistakes of dating

 

Here are a few things you should avoid doing in the initial stages of a relationship if you want it to last

 

The initial stages of any relationship are the defining moments that give the two people involved an inkling of the direction in which the relationship will go. Therefore how you behave in the initial stages of your love affair is very important to your relationship in the long run. There are a few mistakes that you should not commit in these early stages if you want the liaison to last. Here’s a list of common mistakes people make when they first start dating. So read on and try to avoid the following:


Gifts galore
Many people unfortunately spend money and buy their partner presents to show affection. You need to understand that there is more than one way of expressing your fondness to someone. Buying a bag full of gifts at the drop of a hat will make your partner wonder if there is anything to you besides gifts. They may be led to believe that you only quantify affection through giving presents. What is worse is that they might get into the habit of expecting a present from you all the time. So go easy on the love gifts and just offer yourself. It should be enough.


Space
Another mistake that is very common among couples who have just begun to date is that you decide to spend all your free time together. You do not realise that by doing this you almost give up your social life and soon start to lose friends. Also spending every single moment with each other will only make you sick of your partner sooner than you think. So let there be space and learn to balance the time you spend with each other.


One way decision
Just because you want your partner to be comfortable does not mean you leave all the decision making and planning to one person. This is by no way showing cooperation. If only one person is making plans all the time you will soon realize that you barely ever do anything you want. This could lead to feelings of frustration later on in the relationship and you won’t have anyone to blame except yourself.


We are family
Family is a very touchy subject. If you have just begun to date and are unsure yourself about where the relationship is headed, it is a bad idea to meet the family of your partner. They might misinterpret this as you wanting something long term. If you want to meet the family that’s great, but the wise thing to do would be to let the partner know your intentions before they make any presumptions.


Skeletons in the closet
Whatever skeletons you’re hiding, they’ll come out sooner or later. No one is asking you to pour your heart out about your entire past but be honest and don’t hide anything from your partner.


No confrontation
Communication is often the solution to solving problems. If early on in the relationship you start avoiding problems and do not want to discuss issues it could harm the relationship in the long run. The reason why talking helps, is that it gives your partner a feeling of security to know that you will always be there to communicate about anything. Healthy communication is integral for any relationship to work.


Taken for granted
In order to keep the glow of a relationship alive, seduction needs to be a lifelong effort. One of the biggest traps people fall into is getting too comfortable with their partner. You no longer care about your appearance, you stop being attentive, ignoring details about him or her and missing important dates and occasions. If your partner is special to you, show it.


I love you
If you decide to utter these words make sure you mean it. Many people start using these words in a very frivolous manner and you might not realise it immediately but in the long run it will affect your relationship in a bad way. To express your love to someone is the most beautiful thing in the world. But make sure you actually feel the love instead of just saying empty words.

To make a relationship last is not always easy. So make sure you do things the right way from the very beginning.